This blog post goes out to the people who tend to put their foot in their mouth during conversations and also to the people who help them do it.
I belong to the first category…I’m the type of person who would literally take the long way around,just to avoid greeting someone or even to avoid eye contact. Despondent is it not?
My opinion is that maybe I tend to speculate things. I think of everything I could do wrong that when someone comes up to me, I’ve scared myself too much to say hi or even look a person in the eye! Maybe it’s the fear of rejection as well ,I feel as if I won’t be accepted as the person I am to anyone around me…I understand that I could be completely wrong, I mean there are many nice people out there who are very accepting and you can be yourself around them…but there are also fake
bitches which makes it extremely arduous to pick out the genuinely benevolent people from the rabble.
I’ve slowly lost my point of this blog post but it’s for a valid reason…there’s a question that’s bugging my muddled up little brain, how , how do some people handle public situations so well, how do they make it look so easy to speak to any random person and not feel a single shiver? Can anyone answer this?
Now back to my point which I’ve got a grasp onto now..the life of the socially awkward, it’s a life of fear, the fear of something made up in such a persons head. Like I’ve made up the fact that everybody hates me and judges me, so everytime someone I’m not familiar with comes around, I slouch, pull my sleeves over my hands and avoid eye contact..I know it’s unhealthy but it’s the built in mechanism in most of us awkward people.
How could a person overcome such a problem?
Firstly, keep in mind that socially awkward moments happen to everyone, it’s how you recover and move beyond such moments that makes the difference between wanting to sink into the floorboards or simply brushing it off as a passing glitch ( I’ve been doing the first option) .
Remember that you’re not alone and that you have your friends around to guide you.
Look for the source of your social awkwardness.. Like mine came from the thoughts of what I thought others think of me
Once you’ve identified the source and the feelings that lead to awkwardness in social situations for you, start trying to acknowledge these feelings whenever they arise.
Finally, take steps towards eliminating these feelings and start trying to improve your confidence levels. For example I’ve started speaking to people I was previously intimidated by, and it’s helped make me more at ease in public scenes. Like today I walked into a store and the worker who was supposed to seal our packets before we entered wasn’t there and a group of us were waiting…I walked over to the desk and sealed mine by myself and afterwards I offered to seal everyone else’s (of people who I didn’t know), I mean the fact that I could go into a store and start assisting people I’ve never met before sort of shows that I’ve made a slight improvement from the quiet ,hidden person I used to be…I can mainly thank my best friend for that though.
I’d love to end this post with some inspiring quote and be all dramatic , but no. I clearly haven’t done justice to this topic so I’ll be posting more on this in the future :).